Goal setting not only helps children achieve personal goals and milestones, it can be an effective tool in encouraging and securing academic success for your child.
Why Set Goals?
Goal setting is a vital component of our lives and a key to long-term success.
- Companies, organizations, and individuals all set goals to grow and attain new heights and achievements.
- Goals give focus, allow progress to be measured, allow boundaries to be set, provide a system of accountability, and can motivate.
- Goals illustrate the truly important priorities.
- Goals, and reaching them, give us confidence and courage.
Teaching children the art of goal setting is gradual. Practicing and starting on a smaller scale works best with kids. These tips and tricks can apply long beyond just school-age children’s goals.
What is a Goal?
If your child is new to the goal-setting process, you will want to explain what a goal is. This might also be a good conversation for older kids who have been part of classroom goal setting in the past or even set their own personal goals. Reminders and refreshers can always help clarify the point and the process for goal-setting pros.
The Oxford Dictionary defines a goal as: “The object of a person’s ambition or effort; an aim or desired result; the destination of a journey; a point marking the end of a race.”
A goal is not some intangible element—it is a defined result, a destination, the endpoint of a journey or an effort. A goal takes work to achieve; it takes action.
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” ~Anonymous
Starting Block
Most of us already unconsciously set goals of varying degrees and importance. At the heart of it, even a grocery list is a goal. All goals go through a similar process.
- You set the goal (restocking the pantry or fridge or maybe just getting the ingredients for dinner)
- Make an action plan (writing a grocery list and scheduling when to go to the store)
- Visualize the goal and think about what you’re going to do to finish the task (deciding which stores to go to or checking the sale pages to see which place has the best prices on the items on your lists, gathering coupons, etc.)
- Fulfilling that goal (by going to the store, crossing off the list, then bringing the items home, and putting the groceries away or making the meal)
These are the same steps that people, groups of people, organizations, and even businesses use to set and accomplish their own goals. You can also use them to walk children through setting their own goals.
With children, though, you might want to gradually introduce them to this process. Many educational resources suggest setting smaller, very short-term goals with children early on. When setting longer-term goals with them, you should help them make an action plan for achieving those goals. Then use reminders in order to hold them accountable and keep them on track.
Be SMART About Goal Setting
Many schools use the SMART guidelines when teaching children to set goals. This method is a useful tool for setting effective goals at home as well, be they academic or personal.
- Specific
Set goals that are specific and clear. Write each in positive terms; write what your child wants to accomplish rather than what they don’t want.
For example, instead of “don’t get in trouble” setting a goal of “earning a good conduct grade weekly” is more specific, and positive. It also meets the other four criteria below.
- Measurable
This guideline directs you to establish criteria for how the goal is to be achieved. This is vital; there has to be a way to show, both, how to accomplish a goal and when the result has been met.
- Action-Oriented/Attainable
Goals should be attainable, meaning within your/your child’s grasp. They should also be action-oriented, requiring you/your child to take action to reach the desired result. This guideline might require an action plan or a map showing how to achieve a particular goal. Typically, these are made up of steps, which will lead to the completion of a given goal, and they can be as simple as a to-do list or something more involved for longer-term goals.
Goals are more achievable when the expectations are clearly laid out and everyone knows what is expected in order to achieve them.
- Realistic
When setting goals, you should keep in mind what resources and constraints apply to your and your child’s particular situations. A goal should require your child to stretch a bit, while still allowing for the likelihood of success.
- Timely
A goal should have a concrete endpoint; a timeframe in which it should be accomplished. It should also allow a child adequate time to complete the actions needed to meet the goal, but, by the same token, the plan should not allow so much time that he/she might lose focus or motivation.
Making it Happen
Probably the most important key in this process is the action plan. It is essentially your child’s roadmap to achieving their goal. It outlines the steps that are necessary to reach their destination. Your child might need your or another adult’s assistance defining the steps and prioritizing them to increase their chances of success. Action plans can also show a child that large goals can be met with much smaller steps, which will help them feel like they can achieve all of their goals.
Of course, accountability is a close second in the goal-setting process. Sharing their goals with someone, who will remind them and inquire about their progress, as well as encourage them when the process might not be going so well, is crucial. In the event that their action plan might not be working out as well as hoped, you can help them redefine their approach.
Another key to accountability is posting the goals where your child will see them. Reading the list regularly will help keep the goals and action plan fresh in their mind. It can also help motivate them to get results. Another way to encourage them is to find some way to chart the progress to their goal, be it a sticker chart, reading journal, or other applicable method.
Don’t forget to celebrate their goals once reached. This doesn’t need to be a gift or a night out, though it certainly can be. Having their achievement recognized is more important than how it is recognized. With longer-term goals, knowing something pleasant is waiting at the end of the journey can help motivate your child to accomplish his/her goal, but not everyone needs an incentive in order to reach their destination. Celebrating your child’s goal doesn’t have to cost anything. It could just be taking a few moments to bask in their success with them. Plus, focusing on their successes makes a child more likely to set and achieve future goals.
Remember that the goal list and the action plans are not set in stone. The goals and steps can be reviewed and revised as needed. Encourage your children to try different ways of wording their goals (but keep the approach positive—focusing on what they want to do).
Setting goals, like so many activities, improves with time and practice. So keep working on it with your child. Repeat the process regularly. Try new methods. Keep it fresh and fun.
